Having high self-esteem all the time is unrealistic, and it shouldn’t be your goal, either. But without a doubt, you will need to have healthy self-esteem to become your best self and achieve a fulfilled life.
Maintaining high self-esteem is easy when all your external circumstances go your way.
But did you know that even with everything going for them, some people don’t feel worthy enough or happy with themselves?
The external factor (achievements in life, recognition by others, etc.) is just one component of self-esteem.
Actually, the most crucial factor of self-esteem is the one that has to do with your own inner recognition.
According to Wikipedia:
Self-esteem is confidence in one’s own worth or abilities.
But, as you may know, it can be challenging to be confident in your own worth under less-than-ideal circumstances or when you do not receive the appreciation you would like from others.
Following these tips will help you boost your self-esteem and recognize your worth, no matter what is happening in your life.
Know your strengths
You must know with certainty the things in which you perform better than others. We all have remarkable personality traits, natural talents, and something we enjoy doing.
Thinking about those things we master better than others can be very useful for keeping healthy self-esteem.
Are you convinced that you don’t possess any outstanding skills or traits? Make a more in-depth inquiry, as I believe you might be wrong.
But even if you discover that you don’t have as many skills or talents as you would like to, there are no excuses.
Start taking an active part in acquiring the skills you would like to have or those positive traits you’re lacking.
If you look good, you feel good (and vice-versa)
Not only is this quote a cliche, but it’s also a reality. If you do not feel comfortable in your own skin, you can hardly have healthy self-esteem.
If you think that you are not in your best shape, arm yourself with courage, and take the first step to self-care.
Start that nutritional plan, exercise a little bit more, even if it is only short walks around your neighborhood, sign up for that yoga class, and try to rest more.
When you feel happy with the image that the mirror reflects, the value you give yourself increases instantly.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Nothing is so harmful to your self-esteem that you keep comparing yourself to that girl who is “prettier and thinner” or that coworker that everyone admires. It is a gigantic waste of time and energy!
Comparing yourself to others can be very damaging and will not lead you to any positive place but envy and resentment. It is the opposite direction of where you want to take your life.
Many people suffer from depression because they don’t stop comparing themselves to others.
Positive affirmations work
It may seem silly, but looking in the mirror and telling yourself empowerment phrases aloud can improve your mood and make you gain confidence.
Moreover, if you feel the emotion of your words throughout your being, you can be sure it will manifest sooner than later.
But be careful. Positive affirmations only work if you put in the work to make them a reality. Therefore, don’t just tell yourself, “I’m a winner,” and start watching TV all day.
Get out there and work hard to achieve your dreams.
Recognize everything you have achieved. Be your number one fan.
Make promises to yourself and fulfill them at any cost while celebrating every small goal you reach.
Recognizing that you have the commitment and dedication to achieve what you set your mind up, even if it is something as minor as going for a walk to the park, will boost your self-esteem.
Be honest with yourself about your failures
Do not justify yourself or look for excuses to hide your mistakes.
When you fall into patterns of denial and justification of your faults, it isn’t easy to make the necessary adjustments to advance the path of self-improvement.
Fight every day to be the best version of yourself
This advice is closely related to the previous one since building your best version implies continually improving all the essential aspects of your life, stopping justifying mistakes, and leaving a state of complacency.
If you work on yourself every day as if you were your most important project, eventually, the day will come when you will be proud of the person you have become, and your self-esteem will be in a better place.
Posture and body language are essential
Your appearance and the way others perceive you are improved significantly by a correctly upright posture.
Have you heard about power positions? One of the best-known is when you remain upright, taking out your chest and placing your hands on your hips.
Practice your favorite power posture daily, along with your affirmations to boost your self-esteem.
On the other hand, your body expression, gestures, and the way you communicate without speaking also guide others about the person you are, and consequently, they will treat you.
I encourage you to express yourself with gestures that indicate confidence and security.
These tips have been working nicely for me. I hope they can help boost your self-esteem as well.